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Relationships [Mar. 13th, 2009|12:07 pm]
Adam
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When is it acceptable to give relationship advice to a friend? I mean, as a friend, I always have my friend's best interest in mind, but as of late I have learned to either be positive or shut up. Seeing as how I have not been in a serious long term relationship in a while (and if you don't count 6 months or less, then I never have been), so I always feel like I don't have any right to say anything. I think that when I hear my friend's talk about their relationship problems, it is after they have already worked out their decision about what to do next, so any point I would make is futile regardless. Lately I tend to just not even listen to hard to my friend's relationship problems, but is that ok? I mean, I want to be a good friend, but I feel that when they talk about it it's just because they want to, in a sense, purge the information from their brain, not so much to confide in me, but to just take away the pressure in their head.

Some feel that when you start talking to your friends about your problems it means that your relationship is on it's way out. But shouldn't it be the other way around? When you don't talk about your problems, it's probably going to eat away at you until you crack, or you'll just start dying a little on the inside. But then again, I am not speaking from personal experience, and I'm sure that that has something to do with my perspective of it all.
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